Your True Belonging!

Your True Belonging!

Have a genuine look at yourself and your environment. What do you conclude after surveying the whole of you and the settings?
Well, the books which are kept on the shelf are mine, the curtains blocking the radiant rays of the sun are mine, the television belongs to me and surely the chair on which I’m seated is rightfully my property. So much so, even this body which I ill treat is mine! (Don’t feel offended, I’m only referring to that major part of the Homo sapiens population who love to shower hatred on their bodies, in different ways though).
Now that you agree to what I say, I would like to share with you one of the most satisfying quotes I’ve come across lately. It is from an incredible soul who goes by the name of Thich Nath Hanh:

“My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand”

Accurate to the core. The quote mentioned above is applicable to all the beings dwelling in the 21st century and especially to the ones who are determined to live a blissful and healthy life.
The only thing that truly belongs to you and shows itself to people first are your actions and how you react to any person’s action. Not even your mortal body will accompany you to the journey after death, it will solely be your pure soul and the actions that you performed (pure or impure) while you took the journey on this mortally alive planet. Believe me, the way you are with people and other living creatures truly defines your attitude towards yourself and consequently the universe’s attitude towards you!
Be good. Be kind. Be childlike. And be gleeful so that the people around you take delight in the warmth of your charismatic aura. Give good, Receive the best and don’t think of the rest!


The Child In You!



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I’ve often seen people with repressed emotions, trying too hard to not show what they had gone through. Believe me, these feelings might be forgotten by you after a year or so, but your heart carries this awful burden until your deathbed. Love yourself compassionately, you need to let go of the abusive memories and harsh feelings you were compelled to go through and do forgive the person you were deliberately harmed by(Even if that person was you). You need to comprehend that they too had once suffered in the hands of injustice and hatred by somebody and that ‘somebody’ in turn might have had been hurt by someone else and the cycle henceforth continues without any stoppage.

Breathe. Deeply. And try to isolate yourself completely from those painful memories. Gently shut your eyes and imagine yourself in a glorious environment with a child- splurging with innocence and playfulness. Instantly connect with that child. You look at her and soon realise that the child is the former you, the authentic form of yourself who has been suffering the day since you isolated her to experience the materialistic life. Make an attempt to strike a conversation with that child and convince her that you truly love and admire her for who she is. Ask her for granting you forgiveness at not being able to present yourself to her when she needed you the most. And that very time was when you were emotionally wounded but you prevented your tears from flowing away, when you were abused but you didn’t prefer to show that to the world. This directly affected your inner child and brought about a drastic change to your inner world and consequently to your outer world too.
After asking her to forgive you (this may take some time since the child may be hesitant at first to share her true feelings with you). Hug her and listen to her and her ordeal experiences. Remind her time and again that that time, which lingered with pain and animosity has now fled away and that you hold the responsibility as a guardian of your child, protecting her from all the miseries that might try to creep in,if, in the near future. Experience your angels around you and your inner child, blessing you and showering immense love upon the inner child. After that, Talk with her, play with her and proclaim your love to your inner child. Finally, bid her an adieu and remind her and yourself that you would come back again to meet her very soon. Practice these sessions every day until all the suppressed feelings of your inner child emerge out. Hearing those stories and experiences might make you overwhelmed with emotions but that would only prove that your journey of self healing has commenced!
Finally, open your eyes and congratulate yourself for a beautiful work out!

Am I Enough?


We all are different. Whether it be our physical characteristics or personalities. We all are unique and wonderful in our own ways. Do you accept this very fact?

I do. But I usually fall into this mighty trap which I’m certain you have fallen into too. (Like a dozen times)
‘She is prettier that I am’, ‘he got better grades than me’, ‘she owns more than what my son does’ or even worse than all of these- ‘he has a better life than mine!’
Quit comparing yourself with others. Quit your trivial competition with others who you think are far better than you. That’s the very first step of paramount importance for leading a truly gleeful life. Remember this: They aren’t the perfectionists, they do lack the talent in areas where you shine and sparkle like a gem.

By competing with others, comparing your own essence with theirs and coveting what they have that you don’t simply leads to a destructible and melancholic life. By doing so you’re simply degrading your own esteem. You’re indirectly declaring to yourself that- ‘I’m not enough!’

The best and the most deserving person to be competed with is none other that you! Compete with yourself, so that the tomorrow’s ‘you’ is more wise, intelligent and beautiful than the yesterday’s ‘you’.
Someone has rightly said, ‘A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it, it just blooms’
Be that flower and spread your tantalising aroma to the world!

What Is Happening To Me?

“Why does it always happen to me?”
“What have I done to deserve this?”
“I’m worthless!”
“I’m not a deserving candidate.”

Doesn’t this remind you of something?

The statements you just read above are quite common to hear, aren’t they? But, where have you heard them?
Well, then just ask yourself. You might either end up scratching your head in a confused state as to where these words last hit your ears or you might have guessed it right. Who said this to you?
Well then, Surprise!
It was me, your mind! You might not know this but I love criticising you. The way you sit, stand and stroll..Ugh! You’re just so disgusting I tell you. Remember, yesterday’s fashion show on the television? The models were so gorgeous! The way they walked on the ramp, that’s what you call attitude! You really need to work on this otherwise you might end up looking slouchy and uncharismatic.

Now, Did you find that extremely irritating?
Were you totally flabbergasted with the way the mind conversed?
No, it’s not the first time you’re hearing (or should I rather say- READING) this conversation. OUR MINDS CAN EITHER BE OUR SERVANTS OR OUR MASTERS. If servant, they can be the most loyal and soothing ones, but when they play the role of a master, they will never feel shy to show you their villainy. Never.

Then how will I get to acknowledge whether my mind is a loyal servant or the cruel master?
It’s very simple. Are your thoughts in control of you or are you (unknowingly) being controlled by your own thoughts?
If the former is what you choose then there’s no need to worry my friend, you are in a perfect state of health. Keep rocking and don’t let the mind overrule you!
If the latter is what fits to your situation- then there’s a possibility that you’re dealing with a cruel master-a turbulent mind. In that case, you might even suffer from daily mood swings and unhappiness.
But, as you know-there’s a solution to every problem!
I would highly recommend you to start your mornings with meditation. To be more exact- Gibberish Meditation will work wonders specially for people who have a tendency to overthink.
It’s an extremely easy (and FUN!) way to calm your mind and rule over it again! You can get to know about this meditation on the Internet (Believe me, I myself am an avid practicer of this meditation and it has helped me a great deal in my battle with low self esteem and depression).
Good Luck!
Not to forget to mention, if you begin with this meditation, you need to then continue it for solid 21 days. You’ll soon see as well as feel the amazing results. Your happiness, vibrancy and optimism will lead your way!
P.S- want it to be more effective? Do it with an empty stomach!

May Happiness shine your way!

An Act Of Gratitude Can Change Your Life!


“You have no cause for anything but gratitude and joy”- Buddha

Even the great Buddha was aware of the miracles that the power of gratitude can create in one’s life. Gratitude can create miracles in your life. In this blog, I would love to share the benefits and the way in which you can bring the power of gratitude into use. Behold yourself for an amazing new start to your life through the mighty potency of Gratitude!

There’s so much in this world to be grateful for! So, the first thing you can do in the morning is- Create a list and jot down 7 things that you are blessed with (you have to do this exercise daily). It can either be your good health or even a glass of fresh water. It can be anything. For instance, you are thankful to life for your good health. Write it down, then sit in front of the mirror and read it out aloud to yourself. At the end of each blessing, say ‘thank you!’ Remember, that you need to feel the gratitude from the inside, you just can’t read those blessings for the sake of finishing the session as quickly as possible and then expect to receive the results in the blink of an eye. The outcome of your gratitude sessions will take a little time so you need to be patient. But the results which you’ll soon see will be magical. Beginning your day with a thankful outlook on life is perfect as it generates positive feelings in you and brings about a fruitful change in your life.

You might be aware that your inner thoughts and feelings create your outer circumstances. After practising this gratitude exercise, you will instantly feel happy and optimistic. The more happy feelings you experience, more will you attract circumstances that will make you feel jolly and gleeful. So here is another benefit- your gratitude practise is in turn providing you with more things to be thankful for!

Gratitude not only means a quality of having thankfulness and expressing it, but also appreciating even the smaller things in life. So appreciate people, appreciate nature, and yes- do appreciate yourself (that’s the first and the most important thing to do!) Also, try not to complain, criticise or speak negative words about anyone or anything since this will lead to the formation of negative energy around you and spoil the whole fun and enjoyment that you were experiencing after the gratitude session! Believe me, practising gratitude really works. (Proof- It worked for me!)

I hope you enjoyed reading!

-Anshika Jhamb

6 Ways To Cure Low Self-Esteem Issues- Blogging My Own Experience

6 Ways To Cure Low Self-Esteem Issues- Blogging My Own Experience

Teenage years are quite challenging, this is the period when you are neither classified as a child nor an adult. You have to be at your level best. Your parents, teachers, peers expect a lot from you and sometimes, however, there comes a point in your life when you’re not able to stand up to their expectations and experience failure. Consequently, after certain sets of failures you have to deal with criticism. This leads to a severe blow to your self-esteem and eventually you lose it.
This was just an example, there are many more reasons that might have contributed to your low self-esteem. It’s okay if you have a low self-esteem, it’s totally fine! Just remember that there are thousands in this world, who had dealt with this situation and came out of it successfully and soon you’ll be one of one of them! I too experienced a low self-esteem and believe me there’s a cure to this troubling issue of yours. So just hold back and follow these directives-
1) Huggie Time!
Yes! Huggie Time is the perfect solution. Hug yourself tightly and murmur this to yourself- ‘(your name) I love you, you’re the best!’ Do this two times a day (let me be more precise-) the moment after you wake up, and the moment when you are about to go to sleep. Try this technique and follow it strictly until you feel better…(it surely works!)
2) Help someone in need!
Whenever you help someone, you feel wonderful and happy. You feel good about yourself! Donate your pocket-money (I understand, it can be tough!)  or help a friend  in need.
3) Self Affirmation is a must!
You’ve lost your self-esteem because you’ve been too negative and critical towards yourself. Just try to focus on your thoughts (try it right now!) or remember what was your last reaction when your mom told you that you look gorgeous in that outfit. Was the thought or reaction over critical? Did you find yourself overly judgemental and unsympathetic? Stop it right away! Imagine you’ve a friend who’s selfish but dear to you, would you tell her right on her face that she’s an egocentric and a self-absorbed person? If your answer’s a ‘yes’ then definitely you’ll see her teary eyed and soon realize you’ve deeply hurt her feelings.
 If your answer’s a ‘no way!’ then just think what have you been doing to yourself for past few days or months. You’ve deeply hurt yourself, haven’t you? Now is the time to heal those wounds. Here’s the solution- three times a day, sit in front of the mirror and speak good about yourself, appreciate your good heart, how you helped a friend when he was in need, tell yourself that you’re a beautiful soul, you are unique!
4) Choose the right people!
Spend time with those who are positive and kind towards you. Talk to them about your problems, ask them their opinions, ask them what they like about you. You’ll be amazed and thrilled by their answers! ‘Oh my god! Do you really find me lighthearted and fun to be with’ might be your reaction. You can talk to your parents and close friends about this.
5) Find new hobbies!
By doing this you’ll definitely find out that you’re talented! Don’t be disheartened at first if you tried your best but could not accomplish as a good singer, at least you tried and that’s a great thing! Some people don’t even give it a chance but you did!
Remember no one’s perfect! Try out something new everyday!
Last but not the least
6) Stay Positive!
You have to be alert all the time, have you been dwelling on negative thoughts? Take a step further and kick those thoughts out. They don’t deserve your precious time, do they? Now, think positive. That’s it. For instance, you’ve been thinking about your project presentation tomorrow and have been constantly saying this to yourself- ‘What if no one likes my presentation tomorrow?’
Change your thought by saying-‘No, this won’t happen. I’ve given my best and so do I deserve the best!
I hope you enjoyed reading! Do invite your comments
-Anshika Jhamb